tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73934636167336823532024-03-05T05:53:16.306-08:00Blissful Oblivion.. off to a realm of enchanting mysteries.Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-61308565272802079442020-05-12T11:08:00.003-07:002022-04-02T07:45:37.388-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We have come a full circle, haven't we? From losing so many parts of ourselves to things we failed to comprehend, coming real close to finding ourselves only to realize that a part of us will eternally be incomplete and incomprehensible- even to ourselves.<br />
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Nothing can fill me up in entirety, not a passion, not another human being and much in contrary to what I had believed for the longest time- not even my solitude. This has been my greatest realization in the recent past. That a lot of my life will be spent in pandering to the needs of that incomplete self, tirelessly searching and hoping to find something that will make me feel whole. Complete.<br />
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I've been struggling to understand my emotions lately. A lot of it deal with loneliness - something I haven't felt in the longest time. This fight with myself has been exhausting- these demons are no strangers to me, creeping up to my soul, crawling within my body making their presence known at every second of my being. How much and for how long can one fight themselves? As long as the dark sides of my mind want a home in me, I've decided to let them stay. Like an old friend you don't agree with anymore, but cannot let go. The decision in itself feels somewhat freeing- knowing that there is one less enemy to fight in this big bad world of nothing.<br />
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I've, once again, taken my ineptitude of untangling myself to writing. You know, if nothing great comes out of this life of mine, at least I can say I had the power of speaking to a blank sheet of paper. </div>
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I don't know whether he too tried to justify his act under the mask of a blatantly fake innocence. The clothes, mobile phones, "chow-mein", male friends, not pleading enough to stop, I couldn't draw what mistake was being attributed to her in his statement. I want to believe that he was not smirking under his black mask as he whipped out crazy justifications, and that though he can never give back to her what he had unlawfully, unethically claimed from her that night, he felt at least a little bit of remorse for his actions. <br>
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I had been angry with her for the longest time for refusing to file a complaint. All of us had stood up for her as soon as we learnt her story, we spoke for her, and fought her case. </div>
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She had lost herself in the darkness of that night, and retreated into a world where none of us could protect her no matter how hard we tried. THAT was his undoing. His gift to her that drunken, rebellious night that would stay with her long enough to repeatedly inflict pain upon her as long as she would live. A constant reminder of the same unprecedented, unsurpassed pain that any little detail would now remind her much after her physical wounds would heal. <br>
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As for me, it took me four full days to get over the disgust of his stare. But I will never get over the fact that a face like his could easily blend into our crowds staying unnoticed. He looked like just any other guy on the streets and more innocent that most of them. He could have been just another bypasser, an impending disaster lurking in our very neighbourhood, whose arrival none of us could ever anticipate. <br>
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I learnt on that day, that the biggest hurdle in our fight against rape is the fact that no one can possibly guess the heinous intentions of a rapist judging from the looks on their faces. These are men we meet on our streets everyday. Men that have cleverly, tactfully blended into our already misogynistic societies because we let them. Because, our silence, tolerance, incompetence and complacency paved easier paths for them. <br>
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Often, women are blamed for jaundiced sights. "For doubting the well intentioned" too much and believing he is capable of being an enemy. But when the well intentioned bypasser turns into a disastrous monster without notice, we are also blamed for "trusting a stranger too much". We are constantly put in light for our choices of clothing, friends, places etc. Every single choice of ours is constantly "asking for it." <br>
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But her can was different. Or maybe too similar to most rapes. She was in a salwar kameez, was coming back from the college library which she could not have entered without adhering to a strict dress code, was not with a boy friend, - all arguments fail.<br>
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She was a woman in India - the downtrodden class - and that was reason enough to rape her. <br>
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No matter what we wear, whether we tie our hair up or leave it down, whether we are dolled-up or are right out of our beds, whether you are a model or a nun, there are always a few certain men that WILL stare. The only common element in all cases is that we are women. And it almost seems like that is a reason good enough to be stared at, groped, stalked, eve-teased or even raped, that it is a justification enough for rape . Whether he is across the street trying to remain unnoticed or walking behind us whistling tones of the otherwise flattering 90s song, he is there, has always been and will always be. <br>
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There's a major issue that we need to address as a society. And it's not so much related to respecting a woman because she is an incarnation of Lakshmi or Saraswati, or we had a Fathima or Mary, or that she's a mother or a sister, as it is to the fact that she is an individual, just like any other, that deserves basic respect for being a human. That she can think for herself as any man can, judge rightness, make choices every day and choose to live by them, is she so wishes. That she can feel, and oftentimes, much stronger than men. That she has chosen over centuries to respect men and its time enough to pay her back by simply respecting her. That she is not the clothes she wears, that the amount of clothes on her is always going to either too much or too little for some people; that she is simply more than that! Our problems are far more deep rooted. It's heart-wrenching that those of us who take the side of the rape victim/survive are easily outnumbered by people that rant the victims "ask for it".</div>
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We hail from a country that was born as a result of ensuring cultural hegemony and equality to people. Though women are at par with men today in all spheres, there still is a lurking discontent toward women in general and women leaderships in specific.<br>
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For a long time to come, probably nothing much is going to change. If being preyed on by conniving monsters has been justified, probably we should not hope for a drastic change at all. Possibly, all we can do is stand up to injustice when we can, raise generations that are more compassionate and accepting, that have open hearts, minds and respect for people- their choices, opinions, ways of life included. </div>
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Though over centuries women have been revered as Goddesses, they have also been locked up in dark rooms on the days they were biologically and culturally impure. Though some of them </div>
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Women empowerment is the only way forward in our country. On the occasional days that I feel beautiful I don't want fear to accompany it. I don't want be sorry when I feel good about the way I look. I don't want to walk faster than my feet can afford to, glancing a million times behind my shoulder to see if he's still following me. </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-21454473726656925582017-03-29T21:19:00.003-07:002019-09-13T10:34:48.332-07:00Where am I right now? <p dir="ltr"><u>Taking</u> after my father, I grew up as a reclusive kid. Grandpa would often say, "Give Shershada a book and you wouldn't even know you're sharing the room with her." Tracing back, I think seeking solace in solitude started after a rockstar was born into my house. Just another version of my mother- a child whose charisma I could never match up to. She was everywhere, and all over the place- Her exhilaration for conversations with even strangers was ubiquitous. As if the onus was on me to balance this out, I was dangerously shy. I hid myself in empty rooms and read like the worlds I was being transported into were my own. I had found a hobby, that would change the way I saw the world in my teenage and early twenties.</p>
<p dir="ltr">At age 7, I started writing. Just the way I stopped having milk in my tea at 6 because I wanted to be as cool as my father, at 7 I wanted to know why he loved taking to pens and diaries. Having been raised a "dubai kid" I still do not comprehend why any of my poems had to do with butterflies and sunsets and why I painted mountains, all very amateaurly, all before I could really appreciate such beauty. A constant in my writing back then was a longing for places. Its surprising how the dots connect so smoothly even having involved into a completely different person at 25. </p>
<p dir="ltr">This love affair saw timultous times. At college, I took to writing only when I was unhappy, which I most often was. In year three, I spoke to my close friends about quitting everything, giving up on everyone and taking to the mountains to just write.  </p>
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My first encounter with her was a rather short one- one she had written off as a customary, compulsory small talk with all of her clients. Although I had met her only once earlier, she seemed strikingly different on that day. She looked weary and tired and it felt to me as if a part of her happiness had been stripped off from her.<br />
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Quick to judge, I passed her off as one from the clan of angry aunties. I secretly disliked them and kept away from interactions with them wherever possible. But there was a lingering melancholy in the air, one I had familiarized myself with over the past six months of my life, ever since granny's demise. Such melancholy has always been lacerating. Today, her silence intrigued me and left me wanting for answers.<br />
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Before I could start a full-fledged conversation, I tried to earn her trust. Unlike earlier, she seemed reticent. She had perhaps forgotten me and my story, but I remembered every detail of my conversation with her on our very first meeting.<br />
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It had been a rather uninteresting day, and in spite of being a complete stranger she had asked me to sit down next to her for a while on the sofa near the entrance, and talk. Simply converse. Her workplace was tiny, a studio flat converted into a beauty salon. The salon had been passed over to the new owner when the previous one decided to leave for India. The kitchen, located at the outer wall of the building, had already been replaced by two small partitioned areas. The central hall, which a client would enter into was the only breathable area in the room. It is beyond me how anyone could spend eleven, sometimes twelve hours of their day in such a claustrophobic setting. This was enough reason for my almost non-extant compassion to be brought alive.<br />
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I was being rather reclusive those days, but had no interesting things to do, and I gave in to her request and sat intently listening to her. As she spoke, her delicate voice diverted my attention from the rather irritating noise of the ticking clock. It was the first time that I heard a sound in the room that was not from inanimate objects.<br />
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It was mostly her who had spoken and she had done it hurriedly, as if she had too much to say in absolutely no time. She spoke of her child who she had left back at home, of her hope to create a better future for them in this new city, about her husband who lived in the same city but stayed separately, about her small rented apartment in the outskirts and a room-mate who she occasionally mentioned. She didn't seem particularly happy or sad regarding her situation, but four months back, during her first month in the city she seemed more hopeful.<br />
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Today, it was my turn to break the ice.<br />
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"Aapne apna naam Kavya bataya tha na?" I asked her warmly.<br />
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She was taken aback. I was then convinced that she remembered nothing about me, nothing substantial at least. Why did I remember her name then? Frankly, I don't know why I did, but I always held even the shortest conversations very close to my heart.<br />
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The mother of a two year old had decided to travel here looking for a job as a beautician. As fate had it, her encounter with a fellow passenger in the airport resulted in a rendezvous with a lady who owned a salon here. A two-year work contract was signed between them immediately, and her life changed for the worse. Her employer treated her very harshly, providing her only a single bed-space for accommodation. Her pay was meager and she could hardly make ends meet. Adding to this, her desolation and loneliness made the situation insufferable for her.</div>
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Though her narration evoked pity, I was equally enraged. In a foreign land, each of us have our own struggles- some more materialistic than others. But these trials and tribulations in their varying degrees have often been more binding than divisive. Here, more often than not, the territorial boundaries that bind us back home are blurred. Blurred into a brotherliness born out of empathy, and its distant cousin optimism. </div>
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I have often described myself as someone incapable of overly affectionate behavior. I have always hated small talk, probably owing to the fact that I was always terrible at it. But I thought I'd give her my number, so she could let me know if she needed a listener. She did not have a cell number, or wifi at her workplace, which made any communication difficult.<br />
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During another visit a few months later, I was informed that she had quit work or probably made to do so, and nothing much else was said. As natural as guilt is to me, I felt instant remorse about how I was a listener, but only a passive one. I was regretful that not a single conversation ensued the one in which she had shared her troubles to me. I want to believe I was just trying to keep her safe in my own way. I could probably have escalated her matter to people that could have done something about it, I was unsure whether things would align in her favor or against if I did so.<br />
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But to this day, a few years from then, I think everyday of the many ways in which people amidst us are silently suffering. I think of the conversations that we are constantly failing to have. The conversations that aren't deep enough, and sadly not warm enough. The many ways in which we fail to comprehend their aching hearts and minds, and the innumerous times our kindness has failed.<br />
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I hope all of this changes one day, and I hope you and I become great conversationalists, sometimes with the the mere purpose of holding a trembling hand back to light and life.</div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-59370467374781569322017-03-02T04:11:00.001-08:002017-03-02T04:11:25.107-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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My best friend had just come back from her workshop in Pune. It was a long week (or two) without her and as soon as she stepped back in town, we met at a local franchise of KFC. It was their homecoming of sorts. She was as overtly amicable and as obvious as it'd seen, had made good friends during that one week, and inevitably over time they would be my friends as well. </div>
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I was standing in a longer than usual queue at the restaurant with our mutual friend, Sid, trying to get a good round-up of all the events that ensued in the past one week. The group had too many stories to tell- the way it would paint the next three of years of my life with the best of memories. There were stories about late night music, about sneaking out into the terraces after perm time, about alcohol or lack of it, about a teacher that just loved Palla- none of it seeming too new to me.</div>
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What I noticed distinctly through our conversations though was that Rupa stood there, silently behind me in the line. His interactions were different, he took time to open up but after he was comfortable, he was unstoppable. This would remind me a little about myself. It was the first time that I had met him. And as weird as it seems to mention it, he had the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen in a guy and I had to let him know. Around Rupa, there was an air of friendliness which made any conversation easy. He made his presence felt, even in the silence.</div>
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Rupa had a lot of love to give and receive, specially when slightly drunk. A drunk Rupa would open the door, welcome us in with the warmest of hugs with verbal affirmation of how much he loved us. His hugs were to die for, warmer with the most innocent of loves. To add to it, Rupa owned a smile that emitted intense goodness and warmth. Not once in my thoughts about him can I picture him without that achingly beautiful curve imprinted on his face. </div>
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(I am unsure whether I can ever finish this. Every time I come back to this, it gets awfully difficult. After all, there are some losses you can never get over.) </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-27277619591930484042016-07-02T09:59:00.001-07:002022-04-02T08:37:33.371-07:00Where to from here? <p dir="ltr">You are always at crossroads. Of faith, responsibilities, life. There's no proven formula to make decisions that will entirely satisfy any one person or a group of person. There's nothing I see that can satiate our greed.. The want for more.. And then the need for more. I don't know where life is heading at this point. But the horizon seems too hazy. There are decisions I want to make, but the process of it handicapped by societal conditioning of the people around. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I think to myself everyday and it brings me to a frenzy. What if? What if indoctrication didn't exist? Indoctrination of any kind.. Of religion, of culture, of values. What would life be if we didn't have to have to fit into an idea of perfect? A perfect daughter, perfect partner, perfect social being..?</p>
<p dir="ltr">It seems at times that its too much to give into. Like I need to break away. Somehow.. Sometime soon. But what if I have already fallen into their trap? Far beyond repair.. Or what if the life I'm carving is far beyond "righteousness" and it's just me who doesn't see it? </p>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-57517311697866626732016-04-09T13:43:00.000-07:002019-09-13T10:38:25.576-07:00Change is constant, change is me. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It doesn't feel like a long hiatus from writing. In my mind I'm constantly stringing words together, and scripting too many parallel universes, hoping to finally pen them down on a day that doesn't feel shorter than its sunset.<br>
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I have sat down on several occasions to write, most commonly to vent and given up on every single chance owing to the in-cohesiveness of my thoughts. My mind hadn't been idle for a single moment as far as I can trace back into the last year, and given a chance with no questions asked, I could have screamed into an abyss my frustration and hoped it never found its way back. About patriarchy, about war, about loss of childhoods during war, of relationships, my fear of bereavement and most of all, about the pangs of never making enough of this short stint in earth.<br>
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So much has changed for me in the past one year. Ever since granny died, every single day has been spent in her contemplation, in contemplation of death and life in general. In understanding a God that took her away against my will, to whom I prayed, and prayed, and prayed till my nerves numbed and cried, and cried and cried till I could no longer breathe. Fast forward a year, on some days, I'm still broken bones waiting to be glued back together with the adhesive of her presence. The only remnants of her life in mine are the regrets I have of not having been there for her. For feigning ignorance and playing the fool, who survives final-stage cancer?</div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">I started this journey to myself on the day I knew she was suffering from cancer. I needed an oasis, I needed a muse to detour from my depression. I lived with my father who had mastered the art of masking emotions- I had to be his saviour and my own. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">As a result I indulged myself in books- mostly Rumi, in yoga, in writing, design and art, in finding the best cafes in town- spending hours there all by myself, trying to find myself and hoping never to be found the world. I questioned pretty much everything that was put before me. I was unemployed, I had seen my grandmother slowly slipping away into her heaven, and I did not have many to share this sadness with. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">My inward journey began through all of this- a journey for which in two years time I would thank myself. Everything seemed well at times, but on days everything seemed unsatisfying. It took me months of crying to sunsets, but at the end of it I finally found a peace like never before. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">My friend told me a few months back that deep within him was a lake undeterred by the outside world. By people's opinions, inhibitions, judgements and expectations.. Looking back, I had realized the existence of this space within myself. I had begun to be undeterred, to the point of scary undeterred. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">My grandmother was a fighter. A lady who did things only her way. She lived alone, travelled alone, and battled with life (and death) alone. Her loss reiterated to me how short this life is, to hold every passing moment and make it mine, to love people that deserve to be loved with a love like no other, to be fiercely passionate and above all- not to wait for a tomorrow. I started meeting new people, making friends out of my social circles, sharing our lives and stories, building dreams for each other. I started travelling. I started enriching my soul with people and experiences. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">This moment in life, this is the happiest I have ever been. This is the most peaceful and content I have been. On some days, I'm smiling only within myself and that's the only way I want to be seen- with nothing to prove to the world. </div>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-3849462900932994482015-12-12T11:19:00.000-08:002017-03-08T03:26:53.903-08:00Chandragiri, On your shore is where I'd rather be. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Among the many questions that confuse (and most often, infuriate) me, "Where are you from?" tops the list. Frankly, I have never known. And if I did have an acceptable answer to it, why would it matter to anyone where I really am from?<br />
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That being said, I am fortunate to live multiple lives in a single time, mostly owing to the places I come from. I was born in a small town in Kerala, Kasargod and my formative years were spent in Dubai. After my too-big-for-Dubai dreams and other circumstances forced my exit from a closely guarded, protective environment in Dubai, my world expanded so much more once I stepped into a newer home, Mangalore.<br />
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Mangalore is not the ideal place to live in, considering how communally sensitive it is (when it is). But still being in its developing stages it is a perfect amalgamation of the traditional and the modern, which suits all lists of the introvert I am. Looking back, it seems to me that in spite of the love-hate relationship Mangalore and I had over the years, this city has finally won my heart- and the usual answer to where I'm from is Mangalore, if we don't delve into further details that is.<br />
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Thekkil, my ancestral village is only a two-hour drive from Mangalore. While my sibling passionately hated life in Thekkil, it being cut-off from most amenities, I had an insatiable need for regular doses of village life tracing back to as far as I can remember. We never lived in Thekkil after we migrated to Dubai, me at the age of 5 and my sibling at 2 and half years. Only this August, we spent two whole nights at home, ensuing my granny's demise.<br />
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Disappointingly, I do not have much travel experience to compare Thekkil's beauty with other places in similar settings. But with some effrontery that I have cultivated over the years, I believe enough to call this place one of the most beautiful villages in Kerala. With a serene river abutting most independent houses, beautiful moonlit nights playing the highlight, towering palm trees all over and a caressing monsoon, I can hardly be proved wrong in this regard.<br />
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I can't vouch with statistical correctness, but Thekkil comprises mostly of a young adult population. Most of its middle-aged men are first generation Gulf-toilers, the result of which can be seen in the form of bungalows screaming out all kinds of grandiose. The bigger your bungalow, and the grander your child's wedding function, the more successful you are in life, it seems. This has always put me off.<br />
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But in general, the residents here are not overly sophisticated or pompous. As a child, I would often wake up in the mornings listening to the loud noises of domestic discussions in our kitchen that usually hosted them; who is marrying whom and when, who's child just went to the gulf for a new job, who is building a new house, what's for lunch at who's place- life in Thekkil was as transparent as it could have been. Things have changed a little through the years, or so it seems. Or probably it should be attributed to my growing up, specially being a girl.<br />
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While the aforementioned bungalows have huge emphasis laid on the entrance arches and doors, there is rarely any communal activity that happens not involving the rear doors of houses, mostly where the areas that confine women are located. It seems to me now that most of these rear doors are more shut than open and welcoming. Sitting on the porch, at a safe distance from which the river proudly presents itself as a stage to the moon's reflection, I'm told is a taboo for a 24-year old lady. Too many men and ill-intentional young lads tread those mud roads after all. It has also been difficult to fake/hide my identity here. Everyone in Thekkil knows everyone from Thekkil.<br />
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These are however not major issues to someone whose wild-spirit is still untamed after strenuous effort by a traditionally, conforming, conservative family. You can hardly ever drag me away from the river banks and I sit even on boundary walls, reading books if that's what it takes. I also find the chai that the vendor across the street sells pretty good for the standards of the shop. I wonder how many other women have tasted the same.<br />
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The women in Thekkil have chosen a subservient role in their families and largely, in the society. Patriarchal by all means, a woman's role seems confined to their houses, raising the family. Power to them if that is what they wish. But growing up, I have heard of several instances of fathers not wanting to educate their girl children lest they grow up to defy the roles already assigned them. Most kids in Thekkil go to the government school at a short walking distance, where there is absolutely no emphasis laid on quality education, and this is an issue that worries me.<br />
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The better part of the story is that I now remain only a visitor to this village. The time I spend here mostly involves quenching my recurring need for its beauty and heeding to a natural affinity towards the little world it houses in itself, and its people. The bitter part is that, there is only a little portion of this beautiful village that leaves me even as I walk away from it.<br />
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As I sit in Dubai and write this, it has been only a little over a month since I last visited Thekkil. But Chandragiri, on your shore is where I'd rather still be.<br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-15528433873334081942015-10-20T11:31:00.000-07:002015-11-08T05:29:42.380-08:00At 23.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
There's a war in my head. And I'm not winning.<br>
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23? Passion. Aggression. A peace like never before. Far too much love, too much hatred. Wanting to carve a name, etch it on this earth forever. Needing to retreat into my shell. An incomprehensible love for art. An urge for creation. Inability to focus. </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">There's a war in my head. And I'm not winning. </div>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-74892571076594443382015-07-10T14:05:00.001-07:002019-09-13T10:43:32.270-07:00Of guilt trips and inadequacies. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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M,</div>
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You are stronger than I will ever be, and lest my tears cause any self doubt in your mind, my existence would be annihilated in spirit.</div>
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I cannot fathom the pain you are going through and there are raging wars of guilt and inadequacies in my head. Could I have been there for you longer? Could I have retarded the pace of the monsters that are you eating you up, little by little? Could I have loved you more? Could I have expressed more?</div>
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Time has passed too quick since we last met. But it feels like yesterday, you screaming at me for hiding out at the river banks, lest you lose me for good. What do I scream at for taking you away from me? Forever.<br>
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Two months have passed by, and I still die a little inside each day blaming myself for all the things I failed to do. This is not empathy. You don't need my empathy. You have been far too strong to have ever needed anything in life, more so from me, who didn't care enough to be a profound presence! You bore in silence for far too long, hiding your consuming pain under the mask of a cheerful face, and I failed to see that you were suffering. </div>
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How did I not see it? Is pain that easy to hide? How did I not know? How consumed was I in my own world full of materialism chasing things that I will have to leave behind in this world anyway?</div>
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Would you forgive me for not seeing through your smile? Should I ever forgive myself?</div>
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Is this how life works? That people suffer incessantly, in secret, day after day while others fail to comprehend the extent of their pain and hardships? Does one have to cry out loud about their misfortunes for others to see it? Are we now incapable of reading silence?</div><div dir="ltr"><br></div><div dir="ltr">I will never have answers to most of this, but when we do meet one day, at a river bank, and when you run to me reprimanding me for being there, my heart will smile knowing your love is far stronger than my failures and inadequacies. </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-81706858503885409552015-04-10T11:41:00.001-07:002017-03-08T03:27:23.071-08:00The one that matters. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I'm far far away in a distant land, and I don't see you anymore. Not as much I would have desired to. Not in all your colours and their shades, not in your details. But you're with me on my mind, as you always will be. A part of you will always live in me, like it does, reminding me so constantly of our time together. </div>
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Tonight feels like one of those nights where I'd ask you to continue speaking, even when you had nothing to say, only to listen to the vast dimensions of your thoughts. One of those nights that I would choose to sing for you; you'd join in and I would reprimand you for the incorrectness of the lyrics. Or the night that we strolled along the moonlit shores listening to lethargic waves, letting them whisper their stories as we whispered ours. The night of endless adventures. The night that felt shorter than the conversations we wanted to share. </div>
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Tonight there's only gratitude. For being my shore that I lashed my troubled waters at, the one where we built our castle of memories when nothing else seemed to remain. </div>
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For choosing to walk into my life and being the closest definition of "altruistic love" that I will ever know. For doing everything within your reach, and beyond to make me happy. </div>
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For calling me "sunshine", even when I brought in more darkness than I should have. </div>
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For loving me even in my broken fractions and parts, when I couldn't find the whole of me. For helping me find myself back, not closing your doors on me everytime I walked away, for the kindness. </div>
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For allowing me to love you. For letting me know just how much I could. For setting the standards high for any other person that will ever enter my life.</div>
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I cannot tell you how grateful I am for you. And how apologetic I am to have caused the pain and the tears- something I can never forgive myself for. </div>
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Today is your day, and if there's anything I want you to know it is that </div>
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I love you. </div>
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In all your colors and shades. In your most intricate details. In the purest form of love I have ever felt.</div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-30411708820991799572015-01-20T12:26:00.001-08:002022-04-02T08:09:15.786-07:00Nights and Stories. <p dir="ltr">2AMs, the sound of the ticking clock, heavier breaths, and cold breeze forcing its way in through the crevices in the glass- they all have their own story to tell. The nights hold an unworldly charm for those who can see through the dark. </p>
<p dir="ltr">As it caresses in its bosom the noisy crowds, the poets, artists, writers and thinkers awaken. How in love am I with these hours that belong solely to them!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Up high in the sky, the moon shines bright and on it are silhouettes of children dancing in a winter light to faintly lullabies. They disappear to the morning sun. Are the craters the indentations of their tiny feet as they hurried back home?</p>
<p dir="ltr">On some starless nights, the lone star appears meekly and carefully, like a little brat giving away the playful crimes of its comrades when they're away. Little does it know, the the fallen stardust on night sky carpets at 2 AMs are my playful crimes. </p>
<p dir="ltr">On a distant land, I hear the warring waters. The ebb and flow of the tides. Their fickle mindedness. Ebb or flow? Why this war with a welcoming shore, I think. Ebb, then flow. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Where I am, the nights birth a new story with every <b>deceptive</b> wink of my eye. There's another world in these nights. A hundred new worlds in some. How in love I am with these nights and their stories!</p>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-52772122249057149312014-09-11T12:18:00.001-07:002014-10-05T11:32:15.411-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It was either brimming joy<br />
Or hidden pain<br />
And at times, both<br />
They were always glistening- her eyes<br />
And how he spent nights trying to decipher<br />
The secret worlds that dwelled in them<br />
Worlds her words didn't vindicate enough! </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-31045292641897224342014-09-05T12:03:00.000-07:002014-09-06T14:02:53.653-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">In an incomprehensible darkness</div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">The clouds ignited, burst open</div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
The pain wouldn't hold anymore.<br>
Peircing. Fighting. Hastening.<br>
Inflicting more than it freed.<br>
Yet, void of remorse, the freedom exultant.<br>
Still, a ray shined through.<br>
Amidst all odds.<br>
Peircing. Fighting. Hastening.<br>
Only, harder.<br>And just as she lit the darkest corridors </div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">Of his dismal, brittle heart<br>
It shone with a light brighter than the sun.</div>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-767790020077237322014-09-01T12:48:00.001-07:002014-09-01T12:49:43.300-07:00A Thing Called Love.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Let me paint you a picture.</div>
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One that transcends all known divides. </div>
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One that speaks of love, of all things beautiful.</div>
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I'd paint you the picture. I promise you. But love needs colors, rainbows, and far too many auroras of congruous harmony for me to do it any justice. </div>
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I have drained all of mine in rendering the grey sky with my hues. </div>
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And if I did, there'd be too many colors contrasting the darkness she left behind in your soul. </div>
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Just too much light to blind your already flickering eyelids. But I promised you, to hold your heart dear.</div>
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I could say it again, and a hundred times over. </div>
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And a few times more- that you will be alright. </div>
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And silently hope for myself, just as I do for you, that so will I.</div>
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But we both know. </div>
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That when they leave, they take along with them a part of our worlds, that we little knew existed.</div>
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And we spend the rest of our days, unforgiving, recreating the lost worlds in others, with others.</div>
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Always, in vain.</div>
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I would tell you, the universe brims with enough goodness to set you free. To set us free.</div>
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That it conspires to save the good people, our hurting souls. </div>
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But love defies all logic, all science, philosophy. Everything that we know to be true.</div>
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You have seen more universes than the rest of the world have ever known to exist, in the subtle nuances of her very being.</div>
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Found too many worlds in the single person that meant the world to you.</div>
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The goodness of a million others shone bright in your one-in-a-million.</div>
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And blinded you to the rest of the world.</div>
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What science or logic could explain this love? One so profuse, so consuming. </div>
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This is why my words are meek. </div>
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Too fragile to hold on their own.</div>
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Why I fumble when I tell you you're going to be alright. </div>
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Why when you fell back to the raw earth from your heavens, you fell deeper than you imagined. </div>
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Why at times, you were too numb to feel. </div>
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Or comprehend the hoard of new feelings that now blanket you.</div>
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Everyday. Every single night.</div>
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Why there isn't enough light in the world anymore.</div>
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You loved with a love you didn't know you were capable of.</div>
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You loved enough for the both you.</div>
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And when she left.. </div>
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Well, when they leave.</div>
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We have enough left in us to indulge in darker sides of the night.</div>
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Enough for it all: </div>
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Falling more in love with the ideas of our carved worlds. </div>
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Ideas. More ideas.</div>
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Concepts. Scripting concepts of a redefined love. Scripting fantasies never to be true.</div>
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Growing too fond of the new found escape- solace- solitude</div>
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Of the dark firmaments, the studded stars velveting them. </div>
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Of all things you have grown fond of as you drank away the hurtful nights.</div>
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Of vanishing silhouettes, piercing suns and fading sunsets.</div>
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Of all things that crashed your empire in the wake of the day. </div>
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Of lost battles. Losing wars.</div>
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Lost causes. </div>
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Once in a while, and to an unlucky few, very few times in a while a thing called love happens. </div>
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The darkness of the earth consumes itself to light up enough new worlds in our souls. </div>
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Love happens. </div>
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And then, it is lost. </div>
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Worlds are lost. </div>
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And you have been blinded again.</div>
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A few more battles lost. The war too lost..</div>
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Lost ideas, concepts. </div>
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Listen close, the universe still conspires.</div>
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Relentlessly.</div>
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You will hurt. It will hurt. </div>
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But in the bitterness, love happens. </div>
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Again.</div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-31693441093006115392014-07-25T08:44:00.004-07:002014-09-01T10:02:48.720-07:00Writers<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We are but naive worshipers<br />
Of redemption through words<br />
Hoping to relentlessly<br />
Fill the fractures in our souls<br />
And faults in our fate<br />
Through well-scripted fantasies.<br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-27359474134258430482014-07-25T08:42:00.001-07:002014-09-01T10:04:05.053-07:00Stardust<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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He spoke endlessly of how small an entity we are</div>
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Of the growing universe, love and magic in our hands</div>
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But in that one moment</div>
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It felt like the whole of universe dwelt in his eyes</div>
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Like magic was all mine, for an endless instant. </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-7382239343845534142014-07-25T08:40:00.001-07:002014-09-01T10:07:58.195-07:00Obliviate<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: inherit;">They tried.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">They warned me against my end that was u</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Only, you were the beginning of all that was me</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">The end of my sorrow, my pain, my regret.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">I was hiding beneath the mask you tore open</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Layer by layer, i unfolded.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">I wrote you in the stars, the galaxies</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">When came the night, bathed in ur glimmer</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I </span>molded<span style="font-family: inherit;"> you in the sky- heedful of fragile clouds </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">When came the rain, drenched in your tears </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">I saw you in the rainbows- in the vivid hues and the myriad tints</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Engraved deep in my veins, I cleansed my soul with yours </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">They warned me against an end that would be u</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">an impending tragedy- your repellancy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">But long after you've been gone </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">In search of brighter stars, fuller galaxies and softer skies </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">I've been broken, mended and broken far worse again</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">A constellation of words have been let loose</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Far too many sunsets have been spent in solitude</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">And I must have a broken judgement, to want it all over again</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">To accept the years of destruction, for a few moments of your sunshine. </span><br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-70876910719323894122014-04-28T11:06:00.003-07:002014-04-28T11:06:35.182-07:00Untitled<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Out there, in some place, imaginary or real<br />
Where all stars shine just right<br />
None too dull, none too bright<br />
Where, I come as I am, where you come as you are<br />
And us, just two souls, shredding the societies bar.<br />
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Out there, in that place, imaginary or real<br />
Where all flowers sway equally fragrant<br />
None too fizzled, none too blatant<br />
Where the breeze caresses your gentle hopes,<br />
And I, relentless, stitch together your broken wings<br />
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Out there, in that place, imaginary or real<br />
Let us be one, for once, forget these bonds<br />
Let me see you, and the graven emotions you don<br />
Where, all love is foolish, all care is selfish<br />
And us, let us find an eternity in the teardrops we free<br />
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Out there, in that place, imaginary or real<br />
Lets us lay below a naked sky<br />
Feel the crying earth, and climb the hills so high<br />
Let us talk about limitless boundaries,<br />
And I, let me find my world in your gleamy eyes.<br />
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Out there, in that place, imaginary or real<br />
Let me free you of all your bounds<br />
As you stare into the stars, not wanting to watch our love drown<br />
I'll tuck you in, with a blanket of memories<br />
Away from us, away from me, our world slipping off our palms<br />
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Out there, in that place, real, too real<br />
Where we loved with all our heart,<br />
And no truth could do us apart,<br />
Where, I came as I was, where you came as you were<br />
And us, just two souls, lost in a love that saw no par.<br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-42530658568724351512014-04-21T10:40:00.000-07:002014-04-21T14:48:35.968-07:00These Terrible Inclinations.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Have you ever glanced at an ingenious piece of art, and fallen more in love with its creator than the creation itself? Have you wondered reading a poem, what a miss it has been, that your path hasn't yet crossed the poets? Or if it has, what a greater tragedy the oblivion is! Have you instantaneously fallen for a kind gesture by a stranger? Ever noticed in what beautiful harmony the words sway as a few gifted write?<br />
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Literature, language, art and soulfulness- oh, these terrible inclinations.<br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-25527066851576952362014-04-21T08:37:00.000-07:002014-04-21T10:07:12.088-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Of blurred lines and hazy silhouettes<br />
Of what is and what should be.<br />
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Of blurred lines and hazy silhouettes<br />
Of what was and what could have been.<br />
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At times I'm all I ever wanted to be, but mostly, I'm all I'm not.<br />
I'm a river, I'm a storm, I'm the fire.<br />
Calm, consumed, consuming- I'm so much and so little.<br />
I'm everything I should be. But mostly, I'm everything I cannot be.<br />
I'm the creator and the destroyer- the beginning and the end<br />
For every ounce of me, I'm twice an ounce of what I should be.<br />
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-71628122321530221732014-04-21T08:11:00.002-07:002022-04-02T08:23:13.413-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Its crazy how there's so much to do and all I really want to do is write... how there's too little time for too much work, and in my mind I'm secretly wishing I could pen down a few words. Its crazy how this NEED to write is consuming me. </div>
Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-72992851524760318452014-03-16T13:25:00.000-07:002014-03-16T13:25:03.986-07:00Leaving you behind. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I wish my kind would believe more in happy ever afters and fairy tale endings. But we are the good old realists. The fatalists that live by the events of the day, not looking for too many worries, and with no patience to set flowery, meandering paths leading to the perfect ending. I cannot find an explanation for why I am this way! It is probably a self-assumed defensive strategy to prevent myself from spending time over finding solutions to trivial matters of the ensuing days. Facing life as it comes has been an adventure in itself.</div>
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There are very few things that matter to me. And very few people in my life, that I have refused to let go. Being overtly amicable, I have scores of friends, but if you insisted, I could name in seconds the people that really mattered- they are that few. Its an inbuilt programming system- though heavily flawed, cannot be purged.</div>
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One of those few things that matter happen to be trust- or the lack of it. I realized today how easy it is for me to stop loving an individual no matter what they meant to me earlier, the moment i realize there are evidenciary circumstances of them being untrustworthy. It stems mostly from the fact that it is so difficult for me to not be a trustworthy individual, and even more so to lie. </div>
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I have always been afraid of my ability to stop loving- and have often times found myself in internal battlefields with myself over questions of injustice to the person in question. But this week has changed it all. I feel blessed, I can carry forward and leave unfaithful components behind. It sure must be a defensive strategy, which I am grateful to have somehow imbibed over time. </div>
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Shershada Raufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07586596539992552721noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7393463616733682353.post-9522347890779297032014-03-16T04:36:00.001-07:002014-03-16T04:49:26.165-07:00'HAPPY' @ Faculty of Architecture, Manipal University<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So, my five years at college have almost come to an end. And I can bet on everything I have, that these have been the best times of life. I learnt a lot about myself, grew so much as a person and saw 78 others bud from artists and designers to architects while parallelly, blossoming into beautiful human beings- the type with a lot of soul and heart and the type that I love. :)<br />
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It's always difficult to leave somethings behind- things you have grown so fond of. Have I felt this before? Yes. Going to feel it again? Emphatically no! That's what makes this time special.<br />
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